SILENCE : A LANGUAGE OF PURITY 

 Silence is probably the most and only common language around the globe, used by each and every person some time or the other in their lives.

 But contrary to its wide reach; it's understood only by the few. Sometimes they can be someone pretty close or a total random stranger could do what the inner circle couldn't. The ones willing to pay attention and time can understand it.

  There is no pretending in this, Silence doesn't do formality or beating about the Bush. It only speaks plain truth; conveys the genuine emotion with all its depth and every associated feel. 

  It is also the language of nature. Quietly sitting under the stars, walking down a bank of river, enjoying the horizon in ankle deep sea water with ever shifting sand or simply taking in the fresh aroma of earth after a little rain all can be listened only in silence; healing the mind and soul as we enjoy a little conversation with what's around.

  

WHY DO PEOPLE OVER REACT ??!

The Need Of Overreaction

OVER REACTION.

 How do you define it scientifically or psychologically.

What is it ? Why people over react ? What is the need of it ?

These questions were prodding on my brain for a while now.

Recently ,I finished a book by Paulo Coelho THE ZAHIR.

It answered the last question and explained the other two for me..

Over reaction has a stigma surrounding it. Society consider it bad..whenever they see someone over reacting to something , they prefer to ignore them and later avoid them altogether.. It worsens the situation.

Overreaction is directly related to TRUST.

A kid always cries loudly in front of parent only.

So if someone over reacts in front of their colleague or friend, that means they trust them enough.

Sometimes over reaction is the reaction that didn't came out when it should may be because we were too little ,or naive or just too shocked to fathom everything that instead of tears and shrieks something got buried inside.

And after growing up anything that has a slightest connection to that reaction or when we finally understand what happened to us, it comes out and feels like 

over reaction to the ones who doesn't know your past. 

To sum up: over reaction is always the past reaction the didn't occurred.

THE NEED OF OVERREACTION:

In THE ZAHIR , PAULO talks about emptying the space occupied by pains of the past and opening up to new experience. To reborn and become a better version of your ownself.

For that, talk about your past to the ones you trust and to the strangers until the story no longer hurts , it's no longer the part of you. It's just something that happened. And you are no more affected by it. 

It Talks about freeing yourself from THE PRISON OF YOUR PAST.. 

So, we only overreact in front of the ones we trust , and it's important to free us from our own prison.

My advice : if someone trusts you enough to overreact in front of you, don't tell them anything , quietly listen ,They are pushing open that door , they are finally breaking the shackles.

If you interrupt and tell them, THEY ARE OVERREACTING. 

the door will shut on their faces and they will be trapped again.

 My prayer:  I hope and pray you all find the one who will listen to your rambling infinite times and hold your hand through it and when you are done the drape their arms around your shoulder and whisper in your ear that you are the strongest person they know and it's okay to breakdown.

Cause all of us deserve to be free.

Note: there are still a lot of aspects I haven't talked about and I don't know about.

I want to convey the message

"Over reaction is not something wrong . it's the sign that something is wrong"  

Excerpt from a book : LIKE THE FLOWING RIVER

LIKE THE FLOWING RIVER BY PAULO COELHO

I want to be some one capable of seeing the unseen faces,

of seeing those who do not seek fame or glory, who silently fulfill the role life has given them 

 I  want to be able to do this because the most important things that shape our existence, are precisely the ones that never show their faces

   As the Japanese poet Mitsuo Aida reminds us about importance of innocence in his poems

 

Because it has lived its life intensely

the parched grass still attracts the gaze of passers-by.

the flowers merely flower, 

and they do this as well as they can,

the white lily, blooming unseen in the valley,

does not need to explain it self to anyone;

It lives merely for beauty.

Men however can not accept that 'merely' 

If tomatoes wanted to be melons,

they would look completely ridiculous.

 I am always amazed 

that so many people are concerned

with wanting to be what they are not;

what is the point of making yourself look ridiculous

TO CONCLUDE:

 You don't always have to pretend to be strong,

there is no need to prove all the time that everything is going well,

you shouldn't be concerned about what other people are thinking,

cry if you need to, 

it's good to cry out all your tears

(because only then will you be able to smile again) 

 

 

WRITERS & LONELINESS

WRITERS & LONELINESS

 For a writer's creative process to work , loneliness is important. Not solitude which is the celebration of being alone but loneliness

 Loneliness is a feeling or realization that gnaws into you a hollow dark pit that seems to drown & asking for help is an impossible dream.It is the feeling of being distant that you feel whilst sitting among your family and friends; the realization that you are no longer part of them . 

       It's born when the very person who are suppose to trust and believe in you , belittles and criticizes the person. It leaves an uneasy feeling that prevents one from trusting anyone ever again , promotes self doubt.

 Human nature ; we can't take it, we get upset when we realize about it . THE BITTERSWEET PAIN OF LONELINESS MAKES YOU CRY & THEN HUGS YOU CLOSELY 

   a deep sadness that makes you yell at the world but suddenly brings you face to face with all the beautiful things that are hidden in plain sight , silently floats in the shadows smiling innocently .

 The sad feeling that stabs you in the heart & tells you

 you are hell strong to stay on that long

Loneliness is a writer's secret friend. It catches and hugs you when no one is around